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1/ Our house is a literal wreck - we& #39;re running out of space for class workarea for 2 kids. I& #39;m WFH on the dining rm table - where 4+ milk spills have almost soaked my laptop - the chaos is stressing my spouse out. Me? This day is no diff than any day of my life - w/ADHD - I feel
2/ like everything is always slipping out of control. For so long that I& #39;m okay w/ the chaos - it& #39;s just a different take on a day in the life. It saddens me that our house will never be in a state to entertain folks - social visits. It stings to know friends/fam quietly judge
3/ I worry that the lack of interior design/cohesion/organization will be detrimental to my kids ... That said, the whole house is our lab. My boys read fiction at least 30 min a day, my youngest is walking around right now w/ a prism up to his eyes - literally seeing the world
/4 through a different lens. We enjoy museums & zoos & other engagements w/ the life sciences. We listen to audiobooks & read together & discuss characters. We talk about current affairs and how language is used - idioms, figures of speech et cetera. When we use a word outside
5/ their vocabulary, they don& #39;t hesitate to ask what it means - we each share our sense of the word & then we look it up on the Internet. For all the poverty of decorum & presentation - we swim in a richness of knowledge & discovery.
What worries me the most about virtual school
What worries me the most about virtual school
6/ comes down to two basic things:
A.) Physical activity
B.) Socialization
I guess there is also the sum of A+B
In other words the physicality & sensory elements of that socialization as well as the social elements of their physical activity.
A.) Physical activity
B.) Socialization
I guess there is also the sum of A+B
In other words the physicality & sensory elements of that socialization as well as the social elements of their physical activity.
7/ I& #39;m not here to argue that virtual socialization is without merit or that it& #39;s worse than physical socialization. I don& #39;t believe that. I think it is a lot like a well balanced diet. We need a diversity of sensory input. All of one & none of the other, whether vitamins or
8/ social interactions, can lead to an unhealthy imbalance. At least, that is what I think. I& #39;m not sure if there is enough research to back up my speculation - but from the info I& #39;ve gathered over the yrs reading research on childhood dev - this is what I think.
9/ As ADHD as I am, it is difficult to manage daily functions required to maintain a professional career & to be a loving, present father. I have to triage my focus. Providing the psychological & material necessities for my partner & my kids requires me to forego certain status
/10 ... certain status elevating markers: an impressive home (interior & exterior), being seen at the "right" social events, participation in social clubs (ie. church et cetera), status sports like golf - and I& #39;m sure there are other status signals I& #39;m letting slide
11/ I& #39;m not saying we live in filth & squalor. We clean & maintain the functional integrity of our domicile & our transports. Neither 1 of us is especially skilled at clutter culling & organization. Imagine a college professor w/ an office stacked floor to ceiling w/ books &
12/ other scholarly artifacts - that professor so enthusiastic about their area of expertise that their students can& #39;t help but catch that enthusiasm. Now imagine that professor has toys & game controllers & kids books & the asundry of pets. & imagine a computer & gadget hobbyist
13/ sharing that space. So, yeah, our driveway is busted up, it& #39;s been years since water damage pulled away plaster from the ceiling in our den. We fixed the structural issue (water leak w/ new roof) but haven& #39;t fixed the cosmetic. It& #39;s a lot to manage. I can barely do our taxes.
14/ I can barely pay the bills on time (money isn& #39;t the problem, time mgmt & change mgmt are.) Our walls are mostly bare of design w/ rare exception of some art inexpertly hung. Artifacts of the kids& #39; schooling are randomly taped/wedged into display about the house - as if the
15/ whole kitchen is the refrigerator. With the space & unlimited resources & a professional - I could have our house organized, designed interior & exterior - lack of creative vision isn& #39;t the problem. I can organize the fuck out of digital spaces (the taxonomical & categorical
16/ are areas I thrive in) I design, implement, streamline systems & structures for a living. But someone is paying me to spend 8 to 10 hrs a day dedicated & focused. How does one enjoy living w/ their kids & spouse AND use one& #39;s expertise at home between meals & fam time?
17/ I& #39;ve been trying to solve for this X for 20 yrs (even b4 I had kids.) Nevermind the fact that I once aspired to be a writer of some merit - even if just achieving a body of work I& #39;m proud of as the only reader. That& #39;s been buried so far from reach, I don& #39;t know where to start
18/ I write b/c I can& #39;t stop - but there is no body of work - no long term design or end in sight. I write into the void. Into the chaos. It feels no different than any other day of my life. The rest of the world around me has accomplishments. I almost have my degree, I almost
19/ have a career, I almost have a middle class home, I& #39;m almost a good father. The only thing I have fully is a life of loose ends, interrupted projects and books mostly read. That & a family I love fully, a family that doesn& #39;t doubt my love - that loves me back
20/ I live in a fullness of now, a chaotic now - an unfinished now, a less than architected now, a now that never plays out according to plan. A now that I& #39;ve always had, living in the avalanche of time & circumstance.
I look back on this thread of thoughts & think
I look back on this thread of thoughts & think
/21 these are good problems to have. I& #39;m not systematically discriminated against (unless you count a world of neurotypical bias as discrimination - as far as being on the shit end of bias, I& #39;ve got it pretty good - medication, practice & luck can help me blend.)
