Place top priority on your mental,psychological and emotional growth&development before going into a relationship. You cannot be lagging behind when your spouse is mentally high up there&be stressing them by dragging you up&waiting for you to develop&grow mentally to their level.

Lots people are having issues in their relationships because they haven't developed their minds to such an impressive level to even be in a relationship. People just feel they are old enough age wise and their bodies are grown so they ought to be in a relationship.

Your ability to hold intelligent,matured,smart conversations in relationships is dependent on how nourished your mind is with quality level of maturity. It's dependent on how much time, efforts you have put in into growing,developing,grooming your mind and it's spirituality......

When you hold conversations how matured is your level of understanding,your interpretation of words,your usage of words and meanings,your facial and body language,the tone of your voice and words,your choice of words,your patterns of reactions, response &feedback is important!!!

Lots of people just say anything however it is it comes to their mind without processing & taking thought of it to see if it will suit or be a turn off to the person they are in a relationship with and expect the person to be cool with it. Things are not done that way,it's wrong.