So one of the hard things about discussing double standards is that sometimes it’s about identifying a standard no one should be held to, sometimes it’s about a standard being good but more privileged people not being held to it enough

And it’s important to tell the difference between those two things.

“Criticize the marginalized group less because the privileged group isn’t being criticized” isn’t always the right way. It depends on whether the standard is fair or not.

Off the cuff example: NO ONE deserves to be held to the standard of sexual decency that trans women are, where simply having a sexuality gets you labeled a sex pest.

But in contrast e.g. cishet men need to be held to a way higher standard

And as a result there are going to be a lot of people who aren’t cishet men who still need to be held to a high standard, even if they get criticized more than cishet men already.

Both of these are true AND the standard transfems are held to is unfair

IOW sometimes it’s not about the relative difference between standards but whether ANYONE should be held to the standard.

And some standard everyone should be held to.

So we should ask ourselves: is this a case of the oppressed group facing an inhumane standard, or just not getting off the hook like the privileged group is?

Because if it’s the second, NO ONE should be getting off that hook.

“No one should be held to that standard” =|= “no one should be exempt from that standard”