So because someone decided to tweet unasked for advice:

For any trans person, dating a cis person is like any woman dating a cis man. It's a risky proposition, so take steps to protect yourself. Only disclose you're trans if you think it's safe to do so.

If you don't think it's safe to disclose, get the heck out of there.

If you do go on a date, make sure your friends and any relevant family know who you're with, where you're going and what the license plate is (if applicable).

Cis people have been randomly harassing me with "you have to disclose you're trans if you want to date anyone" nonsense for over a decade now. If this is what they're like online to total strangers, meeting these triffids in person risks much worse.

Be safe.

I don't mean to imply murder here, btw. Possible violence, getting stranded, etc.

Also, if you take steps and something still happens, it's absolutely not and never can be your fault. It's always the fault of whoever harms you.

The onus should be on others to not harm anyone.