I think too much of the conversations on social media operate based on heroes and villains. A lot of people seem to constantly be in search of an antagonist. And if there’s not a clear cut “bad” person they will talk themselves into assigning that role to whoever they can.

So even a tragedy like Chadwick dying turns into a set of parameters through which people demonize each other. You can’t say this. You can’t say that. And we turn our grief into anger. Anger is more acceptable to show in public.

I’m the statement that man’s family said he gave us more art as he fought this disease. Why can’t people honor that? Why must they be villains to acknowledge that? It doesn’t invalidate anyone else’s existence or struggle.

I think a lot of y’all feel like your corralling groups to slay dragons when you’re more like angry mobs drowning witches daily.

It’s okay to not have the words. It’s okay to need time to process this. It’s okay to be human. I’ve been thinking a lot about this thought I had earlier this week. “We choose what we hold on to.”

Why choose anger in this moment?

You can choose not to make this moment about striking down every person who is processing this differently than you.