“you’re so strong” is one of this most useless compliments I’ve ever heard in my life

i already know im strong but im tired

im tired of having to be strong all the time. im tired of being shamed or dismissed whenever i fall victim to my struggles.

i know it’s for reassurance but if all you can do is say “im strong” when im struggling

you silence me from being vulnerable and you’re not providing me with the support and safety i really need to heal.

i am more than strong. im human.

and being strong should not be measured by your ability to hide your feelings in the face of adversity in front of others.

what you can do instead for someone you care about:

- let them vent or cry without restriction
- offer food, ride, company, some bread, anything they need
- ask if they want advice on how to handle it

what other ways work for y’all? feel free to drop other alternatives

last but not least follow me on ig @thedupester https://twitter.com/then0stalgicone/status/1282037689194369029