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An old message has randomly popped up on my feed and it’s got under my skin so it’s time for a thread.
It’s the “be happy in yourself, stop trying to date, and it’ll come to you” message
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Firstly, why do you assume that because I’m looking to date I’m not happy in myself?
It’s the “be happy in yourself, stop trying to date, and it’ll come to you” message
Firstly, why do you assume that because I’m looking to date I’m not happy in myself?
Let me be clear, I am very happy in my life. I would not change my life for a partner, but I would welcome a partner into it.
The stages of dating over the last few years have looked like this:
The stages of dating over the last few years have looked like this:
The Grief Dating:
Suddenly single, broken hearted, desperate for validation. Was the dating healthy? Hell, no. Did it help me get over my ex? In part. There’s much truth in the saying “to get over someone, you need to get under someone else”. Hoorah, lots of fun times. No regrets
Suddenly single, broken hearted, desperate for validation. Was the dating healthy? Hell, no. Did it help me get over my ex? In part. There’s much truth in the saying “to get over someone, you need to get under someone else”. Hoorah, lots of fun times. No regrets
The “this is what I do now” dating
Stuck in a pattern of mindless swiping with no real knowledge as to why you’re doing it. No harm, no foul. Life carries on, while you wonder at the number of men who are keen to be cuckolded.
Stuck in a pattern of mindless swiping with no real knowledge as to why you’re doing it. No harm, no foul. Life carries on, while you wonder at the number of men who are keen to be cuckolded.
The Christmas boyfriend dating
When you really just want someone to flirt with/take to functions to avoid being the only single one a dinners, family occasions etc etc
When you really just want someone to flirt with/take to functions to avoid being the only single one a dinners, family occasions etc etc
The “oh God is there anyone actually out there for me” dating
When you’ve been on the apps for a year plus, you’ve kissed a lot of frogs and been ghosted more times than a graveyard. The challenge is on! You’re not a quitter! You’re going to find someone by hook or by crook!
When you’ve been on the apps for a year plus, you’ve kissed a lot of frogs and been ghosted more times than a graveyard. The challenge is on! You’re not a quitter! You’re going to find someone by hook or by crook!
This is probably the worst stage of dating. Your eye is on the prize, or at least it would be if it wasn’t so well hidden, & you can’t even remember why you’re looking for the prize.
Even at this stage, I’m not in search of personal happiness. This is only one aspect of my life!
Even at this stage, I’m not in search of personal happiness. This is only one aspect of my life!
The Casual Dating
When you realise you’re too busy but need the physical aspect of dating.
It also tides you over nicely until Mr or Mrs Right comes along... and makes you more picky in making sure they really are “right”.
When you realise you’re too busy but need the physical aspect of dating.
It also tides you over nicely until Mr or Mrs Right comes along... and makes you more picky in making sure they really are “right”.
The “What will be” Dating
Where I am now. Two years experience on the apps, decent CV, happy to find someone, but safe in the knowledge that if I don’t, I am still living my best life.
As a child, my dreams and goals were about the career I would have, and that’s the life I have
Where I am now. Two years experience on the apps, decent CV, happy to find someone, but safe in the knowledge that if I don’t, I am still living my best life.
As a child, my dreams and goals were about the career I would have, and that’s the life I have
I don’t remember imagining my wedding, and despite having two beautiful past long term relationships, they have never been my be all and end all.
Maybe none of it matters, but it grates when assumptions are made that I connect my happiness to my relationship status.
Maybe none of it matters, but it grates when assumptions are made that I connect my happiness to my relationship status.
Tinder Girl is a dating account, that’s what she does. It kind of says it on the tin.
But she is only one aspect of the person behind her.
So onwards, ever onwards, and thank you all, you beautiful tweeps for indulging my tweets along the way. It’s been fun!
But she is only one aspect of the person behind her.
So onwards, ever onwards, and thank you all, you beautiful tweeps for indulging my tweets along the way. It’s been fun!
