Grief is an odd word and difficult to describe.

My dad died early this week. He had been ill. Then he seemed to have a miraculous recovery followed by rapid deterioration on Monday.

We're all dealing with this bereavement in different ways. 1/
My brother says he doesn't feel anything, when he clearly does. My eldest sister seemed unaffected until 4 days later, she is now distant. My 2nd sister, who was closest to my dad is distraught but holding it together as she's sorting out funeral arrangements and legal stuff 2/
Mum married at 16 and is now 72. She has never been on her own. She's bereft.

Me? I'm taking my own advice - allowing and acknowledging all the different emotions that have been washing over me in waves. 3/
Day 1 I cried. I stayed in a dark room, snoozing or talking to friends on the phone.
Day 2 I was angry. Then felt nothing, then felt angry but mostly numb.
Day 3 I was busy all day with friends coming round with flowers and cake. I felt like I had accepted his death. 4/
Day 4 I felt down and sad.
Day 5 who knows but whatever emotions that come today, I will not ignore or dismiss them. I will not edit them out.

I will acknowledge, embrace, then let go.

Rest in peace, Appah. đź’”

#grief #bereavement #emotionalintelligence 5/
Emotional editing is when you dismiss and block the emotion you are feeling because it is either too painful, you're too busy to process it or you feel you don't have the right to feel that way. https://www.malcpd.com/post/do-you-edit-your-emotions
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