We've argued for years about "trans" issues and gone round in circles.

We need answers not more questions.

So I present my answers.

1/?

Biological sex is an absolute. It is not on the negotiating table. I can no more change my sex than grow a third leg.

Gender is real. Many will say "I don't have a gender" or "gender is meaningless". Whether you are constrained by it or not society attaches rules to sex.

2/?

We cannot ignore the damage these sex based rules can do.

The girl who loves football told she isnt allowed to.
The boy told he cant wear makeup.
The man mocked for being too emotional.
The woman told she needs to be more ladylike.

3/?

Every aspect of society attaches rules to sex. Every time I go shopping I see dozens of products telling me how I, as a man, am supposed to look, to smell, to behave.

Male brain and female brain dont exist from birth. Our brains are shaped by experiences and influences.

4/?

I do not relate to these societal rules on how to be a man. And why should I?

Unfortunately most of us have a natural inclination to ridicule those who reject stereotypes.

A man rejecting gender is not the same as a man appropriating womanhood.

5/?

So what do we do?

- we get into schools and we stop gendering activities and education. Sex is real, gender isnt.
- we stop seeing products as sexed. "Mens clothes" and "womens clothes" arent exclusive!
- we support non conformity. We can say to a man "nice lipstick"!

6/?

- we all start accepting that sex is immutable - the rules that surround it are not. Being trans requires a mismatch between sex and gender. Without gender roles trans cant exist.
- we celebrate individuality. No more stupid labels and catchphrases. No more TWAW....

7/?

- lets get honest. Feminisation, humiliation, cross dressing are common fetishes. Lets start admitting it and stop pretending otherwise. The fact some of us are gender non conforming is not a validation for someone sexually aroused by adopting a woman costume as and when.

8/?

- sexuality is so named because it's about sex. Homosexuality is about same sex. You want to argue about gender? Ive invented the words genderality and homogender for you.... those other words (including lesbian) are taken. I have genital preferences and I'm not ashamed !

9/?

- we start to learn to trust each other. Trust is earned, I get that but allow it to be earned. Shutting people down solely for their sex is unacceptable.
- for now, transsexuals exist. Tag us and let us call out nonsense. Its hard to dismiss a transsexual as transphobic!

10/?

I will always be a man. I have no issue with that. What I do have an issue with is being held to some nonsense rulebook over how to be a man.

I meet the one and only requirement of being a man... I was born male. Nothing else is relevant.

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