I really do not buy into that thought of school of that LRT. Most times when we say people are being difficult to love in romantic setup, it is because we find their wounds too difficult to embrace, and so we demonise the person. I don't like it at all!

It is okay to feel you do not want to put in the work to handle someone's wounds, hurt or diffuculties, or are not able. But don't demonise a person by calling them difficult to love. No one is perfect and no one comes into a relationship without baggage.

Especially when people are committed to healing and being better... and you come along and call them difficult to love. Haska.

We are obsessed with neatly packaged, IG-like ideas of love. I don't like it because I feel it robs us relating with each other (especially romantically) in the full spectrum of our human-ness. And we are poorer relationally for it.