No, I wouldn't encourage any man to court a woman who is above 25 years & still living with her parents. They have not had to contend with the responsibility of individual sustenance; they will not appreciate your sacrifices. Shit hits the fan, first thing they think of is "dad".
So men feel alone in a marriage. You went & housed a woman who has had her bedroom to herself from childhood in her father's compound, with all its conveniences. SHE DOESN'T KNOW SHARING: DOESN'T KNOW COMPROMISE: My daddy brought pizza every Tuesday, I'm not settling for less.
So if you have no daddy-money, you're toast: Have no daddy-patience, you're toast. Not knowing that her father had to start somewhere with her mother. If she had lived alone, she'd know to budget, know broke: that it's not the end of the world simply because we lack now.
Character is forged & experience is its patron. One might have good intentions, but these aren't enough in the highway of life. Resilience is the product of experience. Living alone nurtures responsible optimism. That "we will overcome", not, "let's call my dad"...
Gents, all I am saying is: If you're a man who lives in a war zone, marry a woman who has known war & is willing - and molded by life - to go to war with you. Because I can assure you, war is coming. You'll lose your job. You'll fall sick. If she didn't know war, YOU ARE TOAST!
This may not apply to all. There are men raised in lavish. They'll say, "women were not born to suffer". They could be right. They can bankroll their way out of all mud. And turn to Daddy. But for us who were not as lucky. You need a fighter, more than you need a lover. Get one.
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