Growing up, all the way through college, I had friends
All of them were either:
- Neighbors
- Schoolmates
- Sports teammates
- Fraternity brothers (college)
But just because I had friends doesn& #39;t mean I was good at *making* friends
All of them were either:
- Neighbors
- Schoolmates
- Sports teammates
- Fraternity brothers (college)
But just because I had friends doesn& #39;t mean I was good at *making* friends
After college, when I was 24, I took a job that landed me in Santa Fe, NM - a state I had never even been to before
Literally packed as much as I could into my Corolla and moved out there before ever seeing it
I was stoked
Literally packed as much as I could into my Corolla and moved out there before ever seeing it
I was stoked
I couldn& #39;t wait to meet new people, build an awesome social circle, and design my life the way I wanted
It was one of the most exciting moments of my life
But then I realized that meeting new people in a new place wasn& #39;t something I knew how to do
It was one of the most exciting moments of my life
But then I realized that meeting new people in a new place wasn& #39;t something I knew how to do
I would go to the bar, alone, hoping to meet people
But I would leave 2 hours later not having spoken to a single person
Instead, I sat at the bar, had a beer to myself, overthought how I would start a conversation with someone, and then didn& #39;t do it.
I went home deflated
But I would leave 2 hours later not having spoken to a single person
Instead, I sat at the bar, had a beer to myself, overthought how I would start a conversation with someone, and then didn& #39;t do it.
I went home deflated
This happened a handful of times until I broke
I was on the verge of depression and felt like the biggest loser
I wondered if I would ever meet anyone and dreaded thinking about what my lonely life was going to look like
I was on the verge of depression and felt like the biggest loser
I wondered if I would ever meet anyone and dreaded thinking about what my lonely life was going to look like
Fortunately, I had been reading about game and social skills for a couple years, so I had some "knowledge" under my belt, although I hadn& #39;t put much of it to use
And then, I read the book Yes Man by Danny Wallace
It gave me a paradigm shift and changed my life
And then, I read the book Yes Man by Danny Wallace
It gave me a paradigm shift and changed my life
I realized I needed to stop caring about making friends (which is why I was in my own head) and just be open to having as many random experiences as possible
I decided I would start conversations without caring if they went anywhere
I would sign up for any event I could find
I decided I would start conversations without caring if they went anywhere
I would sign up for any event I could find
And I did
I spoke to hundreds of new people every week and went to places I never would have gone before
I volunteered for the Santa Fe Film Festival, and I barely watch movies
I reached out to someone way older that I met through work and met up with him
I spoke to hundreds of new people every week and went to places I never would have gone before
I volunteered for the Santa Fe Film Festival, and I barely watch movies
I reached out to someone way older that I met through work and met up with him
I even met some people through Facebook (eww)
I started saying *Yes* to everything and met so many people
I started saying *Yes* to everything and met so many people
It didn& #39;t take long for things to change
I made friends fast
My social circle grew fast
My friends turned into best friends
And we literally had the time of our lives
I made friends fast
My social circle grew fast
My friends turned into best friends
And we literally had the time of our lives
And through this process, I learned a TON about what it takes to meet new people and turn them into good friends
So a few years later, I started my site The Social Winner to help people learn these skills
So a few years later, I started my site The Social Winner to help people learn these skills
Now, I mostly help people one-on-one, since coaching is the best way for me to make the biggest change in someone& #39;s life
There& #39;s just nothing that can replace this kind of direct help and accountability
There& #39;s just nothing that can replace this kind of direct help and accountability
I hope you enjoyed this little story!
If you liked it, let me know and I& #39;ll start opening up more often
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This was fun to write and I appreciate you!
Have an awesome rest of your day
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This was fun to write and I appreciate you!
Have an awesome rest of your day
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- Eliminate overthinking
- Meet new people
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- Overcome social anxiety
- Eliminate overthinking
- Meet new people
- Talk to strangers
- Build stronger relationships
Schedule a strategy call to discuss your struggles and goals to see if you& #39;re a good fit for coaching https://calendly.com/rgriker/social-mastery-strategy-call">https://calendly.com/rgriker/s...