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Remember that lawyer who thinks my email is his wife’s email and as a result has leaked all (literally all) kinds of terrible stuff to me?
...I’m now on his friend group’s email list and have just received a zoom invite.
Trying hard to be the bigger person here.
...I’m now on his friend group’s email list and have just received a zoom invite.
Trying hard to be the bigger person here.
Do I send this?
Do I add a sentence
I sent the email with the additional sentence.
Maybe social shame in front of his pals will be the thing that finally convinces Sam that not everyone with an email that is a derivative of his wife’s name...is his wife.
Maybe social shame in front of his pals will be the thing that finally convinces Sam that not everyone with an email that is a derivative of his wife’s name...is his wife.
Well one of his friends replied just to me and removed me from their list.
Whether I’ll still get various forms of ick from Sam remains to be seen.
Whether I’ll still get various forms of ick from Sam remains to be seen.
They’re now emailing to establish how time zones work.
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I will continue updates as they occur.
I will continue updates as they occur.
Another friend came through!
Reply alls concerning the functioning of time zones seem to have tailed off for a bit
Here’s a previous installment
https://twitter.com/cricketcrocker/status/1128281537630408705?s=21 https://twitter.com/cricketcrocker/status/1128281537630408705
https://twitter.com/cricketcrocker/status/1128281537630408705?s=21 https://twitter.com/cricketcrocker/status/1128281537630408705
I FORGOT ABOUT THIS PART OH MY GOODNESS
https://twitter.com/cricketcrocker/status/1128374781349384192?s=21 https://twitter.com/cricketcrocker/status/1128374781349384192
https://twitter.com/cricketcrocker/status/1128374781349384192?s=21 https://twitter.com/cricketcrocker/status/1128374781349384192
Update!
Sam has emailed me. He claims to never have sent his wife or me any inappropriate emails. Invites me to expose him.
Suggests that either I or his wife change our email addresses as the best way forward. Avows he never meant harm to come to him or me.
Sam has emailed me. He claims to never have sent his wife or me any inappropriate emails. Invites me to expose him.
Suggests that either I or his wife change our email addresses as the best way forward. Avows he never meant harm to come to him or me.
I have responded. I suggest that he update his address book and take a second to check that his emails are going to the right person.
His wife doesn’t receive stuff from my friends and family, so it’s a “him” problem.
His wife doesn’t receive stuff from my friends and family, so it’s a “him” problem.
His wife has emailed me, separately, assuring me that a tech savvy relative is visiting them right now. That she will get his help. That this is too much to deal with given all else that is going on.
She wishes me well.
She seems like a very nice woman, and I feel bad for her.
She wishes me well.
She seems like a very nice woman, and I feel bad for her.
I have responded to her also.
I hope he doesn’t force her to change her email address. Without changing his address book it won’t matter.
I hope he doesn’t force her to change her email address. Without changing his address book it won’t matter.
PSA People, I’m not gonna post the smut.
Nothing against smut, personally. People do what they want and (real) consent is key.
Posting that...is over a line for me in a way I haven’t examined, and don’t have the energy to examine and, like.
I don’t wanna go viral for that.
Nothing against smut, personally. People do what they want and (real) consent is key.
Posting that...is over a line for me in a way I haven’t examined, and don’t have the energy to examine and, like.
I don’t wanna go viral for that.
I will keep you updated though because right now it looks like my learned friend believes that forcing his wife to change her address is going to automatically update his address book.
And it’s not.
And if he’s like his friends he may get real upset about that.
And it’s not.
And if he’s like his friends he may get real upset about that.
Just in case someone hasn’t caught it the whole issue is that *he* won’t consider changing what he is doing and thinks the logical answer is for someone else to vacate their email address.
Imagine if he tried that with, like, a house number because he always forgot it. SMH
Imagine if he tried that with, like, a house number because he always forgot it. SMH
JUST MOVE HOUSES / PETITION THE CITY TO CHANGE YOUR ADDRESS
Or how about you pay like two seconds more attention when assessing your correspondence?
Which of those he considers easier is just. I can’t.
Or how about you pay like two seconds more attention when assessing your correspondence?
Which of those he considers easier is just. I can’t.
I have emailed his helpful friend to say look if you have any pull at all PLEASE just help him update his address book.
It’s not that hard.
It’s not that hard.
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No updates til tomorrow or if I am super lucky, EVER.
No updates til tomorrow or if I am super lucky, EVER.
Forgot to turn off my notifications so buckle in.
He has emailed me back. Because it is evidently important that I think well of him.
Which at this point...puzzles me greatly.
Which at this point...puzzles me greatly.
I object to having multiple years of shockingly unnecessary kindness be characterized as venomous dislike, so I have replied tersely.
I’m not sure what irks me more—his many paragraph rehearsal of the type of man he wants to believe he is (kind, considerate, neighborly), or the fact that the thing that got him to this point is that his friends have evidently been like “dude, what?”
At any point in the last over three years, he could have “oh my bad woops”ed.
That he’s only performing politeness now is striking especially given his multiple assertions that he doesn’t care what his friends think.
Clearly my only valid objection is based in venomous dislike.
That he’s only performing politeness now is striking especially given his multiple assertions that he doesn’t care what his friends think.
Clearly my only valid objection is based in venomous dislike.
“Maybe one of you should change your email address because tbh your names are similar”
Sir that’s a “you” problem no one else gets us mixed up.
“I cannot explain your venomous dislike of me”
Sir that’s a “you” problem no one else gets us mixed up.
“I cannot explain your venomous dislike of me”
Heyyyyyyyy we got a confirm that it’s definitely sexism just in case we were in doubt.
That’s our show for tonight! The Sam and two Katherines Crocker show will, I hope, not continue.
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The friend replied to tell me he and the other KC are on the whole “update the address book” thing and I’ve gotten <touch wood> no more emails so maybe it’s over?
Maybe.
Maybe.
