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I really don& #39;t get why you all demand bi women virtua signal their sexuality by "rejecting" men in order to not deem them as gross lesbophobes by virtue of existing. "Even" if they prefer men that& #39;s not necessarily out of some internalized homo/biphobia. They just like men.
A lot of the behaviors you all accuse them of (not taking other women seriously, for example) are behaviors a lot of lesbians in denial exhibit too but in them you see victims of their own pain and misogyny, while in bi women you see vile ireedemable perpetrators.
You blame them of their own abuse at the hands of men in ways that if you remove the "bi" in "bi women" you would recognize as disgusting victim-blaming, WHILE rejecting them & pushing them out of LGBT spaces, which leaves to have str8 men as their only viable option.
You& #39;re all "women should stay away from dating bi women" or "bi women fetishize lesbianism by wanting to be with women" but shame bi women for being with men IN THE SAME BREATH. What the fuck do you want them to do? Be celibate for your own biphobic comfort? You& #39;re all beasts.
I legit saw one of you idiots say "normalize lesbians only dating other lesbians" as if that& #39;s not what& #39;s normalized already, you dumbasses. Bi women are already seen as gross sluts that only date men and kiss women at parties to turn men on. Good God, I can& #39;t stand you all.
You think that I didn& #39;t see women at some point as hot for sex & men as the only viable partners for serious relationships? Would you see me as a disgusting dangerous misogynist or as struggling with internalized homophobia? Why don& #39;t you extend that same compassion to bi women?
Only difference is that I& #39;m a lesbian and they& #39;re bi. Sure, they like men so being with men isn& #39;t INHERENTLY torture like it is for me, but you don& #39;t think that thinking/behaving that way is traumatizing for them too? They they& #39;re hurting too, but you think THEY deserve it.
And no one is telling you to date them or to suffer for them just because they& #39;re suffering too. What you& #39;re being told is to see them as non-straight women who& #39;re suffering too and understand the complexity of their situation the same way you would someone like me.
You all go around talking about bi women being (more) predatory by virtue of their bisexuality and then think that& #39;s not bigotry? You think too that the solution to the horrendous rates of IPV they face with men is swearing off men. Would you tell str8 women to do the same?
You wouldn& #39;t. Because you see str8 women as not having "an option" but think bi women do and thus they MUST be asking to be abused. It& #39;s all victim blaming + Boy Will Be Boys, but add a "bi" to it and you all think it& #39;s progressive somehow. Stupid bitches.
This points to you seeing women& #39;s attraction to men as only ok when it& #39;s not "chosen" and it& #39;s just a passive reception of misogynistic violence, but when they IN THEORY have a "choice" because they also like women, then their attraction to men is active and thus they& #39;re sluts.
You see bisexuality as a fractured ammalgam of homosexuality + heterosexuality instead of its own standalone identity. You see women whose desire for men is active as deserving of whatever results from their involvement with men. You can& #39;t be a biphobe without being a misogynist.
Bi women& #39;s attraction to men is NOT normalized and you yourselves are proof of it. It& #39;s not normalized because they& #39;re bisexual, not straight. Their attraction to men coexists, interlinks and isn& #39;t independent of their attraction to women. Bi women ARE shamed and punished
for liking men bcthey don& #39;t like men alone, they simultaneously like women and those are inseparable for them. If it was normalized, it wouldn& #39;t be widespread to blame them for the abuse they receive when involved with men like they should pick a side for their abuse to count.
They wouldn& #39;t be pushed out of LGBT spaces for being with men, it wouldn& #39;t be seen by other LGBT (even many bi women themselves) as a flaw in their sexuality which should otherwise be "proper" lesbianism or heterosexuality. They wouldn& #39;t feel ashamed of their attraction to men.
They wouldn& #39;t be seen with suspicion for liking men if it was normalized. Them simultaneously liking men is seen as not loving men "correctly" AND as not loving women correctly. No LGBT women (including cis bi women and straight trans women) are seen as doing love "right".
You can only claim bi women& #39;s attraction to men is normalized if you see bisexuality as straight + gay and thus their attraction to men is separable from their attraction to women. It& #39;s not. They& #39;re not bits and pieces of heterosexuality and homosexuality. They& #39;re 100% bisexual.
Be it bisexual with no preference, with a preference for women, or with a preference for men.
It& #39;s not 50-50% straight-gay, 25-75% straight-gay, or 80-20% straight-gay respectively.
ALL are 100% bisexual-bisexual. If you can& #39;t respect that, you& #39;re a homophobe and a misogynist.
It& #39;s not 50-50% straight-gay, 25-75% straight-gay, or 80-20% straight-gay respectively.
ALL are 100% bisexual-bisexual. If you can& #39;t respect that, you& #39;re a homophobe and a misogynist.
The level of performance you demand from bi people as a whole, but especially of bi women, is motherfucking insane, for real.
And yes, it is HOMOphobic to see bi women with suspicion for liking men. You see "homosexual" attraction as inherently in jeopardy if there& #39;s a coexisting "heterosexual" attraction because the gay one will be lesser and the "str8" one as a threat that& #39;ll take precedent.
There& #39;s a reason biphobes think bi men are secretly gay, and bi women are secretly straight too. You see men as the superior choice for both. That& #39;s misogyny. If you& #39;re a biphobe, you ARE undoubtedly a misogynist and a homophobe, even if you& #39;re gay and/or a woman yourself.
Every time you make armchair judgements of bisexual women as man-worshippers all I can think of is my sister who cried rivers of tears to me about how painful and stressing it is to over-perform her attraction to men who& #39;re not even her type (she likes gnc men) to stay closeted.
And when I think of that, I wish so badly I could slap each and every person doing that.
And yeah! You read right, GNC MEN. Bisexuality is "gay enough" "even" in their different-gender attraction that plenty of bi women prefer gnc men, and plenty of bi men prefer gnc women.
And yeah! You read right, GNC MEN. Bisexuality is "gay enough" "even" in their different-gender attraction that plenty of bi women prefer gnc men, and plenty of bi men prefer gnc women.
In fact, plenty of bi people, even the cis ones, are gnc themselves (with a specific tendency towards androgyny but there& #39;s many who& #39;re distinctly masculine/feminine) and thus much more visible as gay than someone like me, who& #39;s a fucking lesbian but I& #39;m fem-presenting.
"Bi people can stay closeted while in relationships", so can gay men & lesbians who have beards, who hide our partners, whose partners are trans & closeted, or if we& #39;re trans & closeted ourselves. My relationship would be seen as straight by outsiders & that keeps us safe too.
