When we got married newly, my husband said to me "my crown, I will hang out with the boys later today."

I left the presentation I was working on to look at him. "What did you say?" I asked.

He repeated himself.

In a minute, I was really enraged that what I wanted to do is to ask him to go inside, pack his bags because I was sending him back to his mother's house.

He wanted to hang out, how? Is he a boy? I na ahukwa?

But as a spirit filled woman, I first calmed down. I told him to sit down and he did.

"Ugochukwu, Ugochukwu, Ugochukwu, ugboro ole ka m kporo gi?"

He replied that I called him thrice. I nodded.

"Who married you in this house?"

He said it was me. Good, I continued.

"I am calming down to tell you this because this is your first time of uttering such a nonsense. You want to hang out with the boys, let me ask you, are you a boy?"

At this point, he bowed his head and fixed his gaze on the ground.

"How many months have we got married and you want to run around like a wild cat? Those your boys, are they not those single friends of yours? You want to go meet your single friends eh kwa?

It seems you haven't realised that you are married now and you can't be behaving like someone who doesn't have a head. It seems you have a lot of time to lazy around. It seems the washing machines I bought you have made you lazy?

Maybe,if I had let you wash all my clothes with you bare hands, you won't have time to say you want to hang out with the boys. Is that not it?"

He shook his hand.

"Listen, I don't want to hear this again.

You want those your friends to start poisoning your mind and you start disobeying me. Especially that one that his head is like German mango, what's that his name? Eh eh..."

"Emeka" he said.

"Eheeeen Emeka. That one that said he is a meninist. You don't know meninists hate marriage? In short, I don't want you to be keeping in touch with your friends. Don't call them and don't take their calls.

Cut them off! If I see you are still talking to them, you will tell me if I married you or you married me."

After speaking sense into him, he had tears of repentance in his eyes.

He knelt down, held my legs and told me there could never be a better wife like me.

Since then, he had severed all his friendships.

In marriage, you have to be the woman and lead your husbands. Men have fish brains and need you to set them right.

As a woman, be firm and let your husband know you won't take his nonsense.

You are the head and he should be submissive enough to obey you.

Look at my husband, he has been a virtuous husband since then. Our marriage has been peaceful.

May God give us wisdom in our marriages.

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