a thread for those who don't come from perfect families

you are not weird for coming from a dysfunctional family. it doesn't make you a bad person. coming from a toxic family doesn't make you toxic. you can still be a good person and be who you want. you shouldn't tell yourself you're any different than a kid from a perfect family.

you are still a person. don't ever let your family define you. there is nothing wrong with you here and you are nor the problem. you are not alone in this fight. never let this hold you back in life. in fact, make yourself a promise to start a healthy family in the future.

give your kids the love you never got because they don't deserve that pain. if you've grown up in a dysfunctional family you have probably never expressed your feelings to your family so make sure your kids can talk to you and express what the feel to you.

understand that it was never your fault and you deserve love too. on holidays like Eid, Christmas or Thanksgiving, when you feel lost because your family isn't perfect. you might have not celebrated those events many times because your family is broken. remember your worth.

you are seen, you are heard and you are loved. you might feel left out when your friends talk about their family vacations or gatherings but remind yourself you are enough for yourself. you might be crying yourself to sleep every night but be your safe space.

you deserve the same love and importance those from cereal packet families have. if you come from an abusive home don't let it become your personality. you are bigger than the abuse and pain. if you've been hurt, use that hurt to make yourself stronger and applaud your strength.

you are anything but weak. living in a broken family is never easy and the fact that you live through it all and still achieve so much every day makes you so resilient and amazing. you are so strong and I think you should appreciate yourself today.

appreciate yourself for all the times you felt like giving but kept going. appreciate for all the times you were hurt but remained strong. just appreciate yourself because you deserve it. you're AMAZING.

I love you.