Most of the time, you will only see as much as you allow yourself to see. There is not a single fandom that does not eventually have intolerable spaces within them. If you don't change your approach to fandom, you will find your experience intolerable every time.

In crasser terms, if fandom is a house and you live in the pipes that lead to the sewage, you're going to think the entire house is made of shit.

If you want to enjoy your experience, get out of the gd toilet.

But if you have a nose for stench, you'll find it every time, and if your experience is ruined, that's on you.

If you're miserable, change it. If you're tired of drama, stop following the people who bring it to you.

If you say "I hate it here" every single day and you wish you could just enjoy your experience without seeing the shit that goes down, I PROMISE there are spaces where you can do that. I do not see the shit some of you do because I'm in the kitchen cooking with my friends.

No one is obligated to stay anywhere they're miserable, but consider that there are more rooms than the bathroom. Remove yourself from the situations and people who upset you. You have a right to enjoy the things you love.

This experience is what you make of it.