why do parents think that the fact they have power over their children automatically means their feelings matter more than their children's? if your child hurt your feelings on purpose, that signifies that you hurt them and they've reached their climax. +

not all children are willing to talk if you ask if you did something wrong. but ask yourself, "am i treating them the way I wish I was treated as a child?" if so, you're headed in the wrong direction. +

ask your children about their preferences. don't force things upon them. my parents tell me that i should be a doctor. i told them i have no interest in it. they disregarded my feelings and said "your husband will respect you". they didn't consider how crushed i was. +

it sounds terrible, right? to conclude this, forcing things upon your children will cause them to disrespect you, just like you disrespected their feelings. the only way to avoid this is by directly asking your children about how they feel about certain things.