hey. its okay to move slowly in relationships. ur not weird for that. if u want something to last, then why rush it? let things unfold naturally and at ur pace. if they’re put off by that then they’re simply not right for u. better to know in the beginning. its ok to slow down.

u would be surprised how much u can learn about someone by telling them “no” and “I don’t feel comfortable with that.” their true character will jump out real quick. before developing deep feelings for someone, make sure they respect ur boundaries and can take a “no.” crucial.

if u think u have found someone worthwhile, remind ur self that u will probably have time to do everything u want to do with them. relax. if they’re on the same wavelength as u, they’re not going anywhere and u can build something meaningful. with no rush. it’s okay to slow down.

to anyone who is reading this like "pshh," just think back to your past relationships. think about your past then think about what you genuinely want out of a relationship. A friend, someone you can truly rely on and a lover. Why not focus on those first two things for a bit?

netflix and chill culture works for a lot of people but if it doesn't work for u, then don't pretend it does. period. u decide what u need. u decide the pace. u can decide that what u have been doing hasn't worked for u and ur ready for something else. u can decide not to settle.