Cis people who gender me correctly when I am around to be polite, but quietly think of me as a man are THE reason it's hard for me to trust any cis person.

It is SO triggering to be thought of that way, and I really can't stress enough how important it is for you not to do that.

Trans people go through life constantly having our existence threatened by people who loudly say we're not who we know ourselves to be, and then, over and over again, find out the people we should be able to feel safe around think the same thing.

It is literally traumatic.

I understand that a lot of you are well-intentioned and that changing the way you think about people and gender can be difficult, but please understand how greatly this impacts us.

Trans people need people we can feel safe around now more than ever, and you are hurting us.

I'd like to thank all the transphobes replying to this thread for illustrating my point marvelously.

Sincerely, thank you all for being such awful, wonderful reminders to our loved ones as to why it is important for them to continue trying to gender us correctly and treat us with respect.

Everyone replying to this thread with "thought police" or w/e is actually just saying they don't love their trans family & friends enough to even *try* not to hurt them.

This is not about control, it's about caring for the people in your life.

Rejecting that seems really sad.