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She desperately wants you to pass that shit test.
She is testing you to make sure your frame is strong.
She is testing you to know she can rely on you, surrender to you.
She just wants you to keep your frame. Set her right. Correct her behaviour.
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She is testing you to make sure your frame is strong.
She is testing you to know she can rely on you, surrender to you.
She just wants you to keep your frame. Set her right. Correct her behaviour.
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Every high value women will do shit tests in one form or another.
Even if she likes you, even if she is yours, she will still test your frame to see if it stands, or you concede, or back off.
She needs to feel assured your frame remains strong.
Even if she likes you, even if she is yours, she will still test your frame to see if it stands, or you concede, or back off.
She needs to feel assured your frame remains strong.
You take every shit test as an opportunity to make her come closer.
Good response to a shit test can include: ignore, respond with humour, deflect, agree and amplify, disagree and amplify.
See below some examples of common shit tests, and responses.
Good response to a shit test can include: ignore, respond with humour, deflect, agree and amplify, disagree and amplify.
See below some examples of common shit tests, and responses.
Your vibe is:
Always relaxed.
Always self amused.
Always cool.
You take her shit test with as if you are looking at a little girl: âThat's so cute, such a good try. Look at her trying so hard to put me on the spotâ
Always relaxed.
Always self amused.
Always cool.
You take her shit test with as if you are looking at a little girl: âThat's so cute, such a good try. Look at her trying so hard to put me on the spotâ
You can find some common shit tests and example responses in my insta account below (or got to insta @beamanforreal).
https://www.instagram.com/p/CEUei_vH-yN/?igshid=1j2cxhtavgtdn
https://www.instagram.com/p/CEUei_vH-yN/?igshid=1j2cxhtavgtdn
Now, is there area single response that works for any and every shit test?
Well... as long as you choose to put her question in your frame you can play with some common approaches.
Well... as long as you choose to put her question in your frame you can play with some common approaches.
1. Ignore
Looking at her with a "that was cute" smile. Then move on with convo.
Looking at her with a "that was cute" smile. Then move on with convo.
2. Turn her question into an indication of her interest
"Look at you... We just met and you want to know everything about me. I bet yo do this with all the guys you really really like". Smile self amused. Then change topic or let her defend herself.
"Look at you... We just met and you want to know everything about me. I bet yo do this with all the guys you really really like". Smile self amused. Then change topic or let her defend herself.
3. Expose her
Quoting @Not_Naked_Now
âWhen you have strong dominant frame you can also respond by exposing them. Explain the concept of a âshit testâ to her. Tell her you donât allow them. Give her one more chance...sheâs not doing it on purpose. Itâs just her natureâ
Quoting @Not_Naked_Now
âWhen you have strong dominant frame you can also respond by exposing them. Explain the concept of a âshit testâ to her. Tell her you donât allow them. Give her one more chance...sheâs not doing it on purpose. Itâs just her natureâ
In essence:
Your frame is how you perceive things. What you choose to focus on. The meaning you assign to those things.
The strongest frame wins. In any interaction, the various frames are clashing. The stronger frame becomes the consensus reality.
Your frame is how you perceive things. What you choose to focus on. The meaning you assign to those things.
The strongest frame wins. In any interaction, the various frames are clashing. The stronger frame becomes the consensus reality.
She will test you to make sure your frame stays strong.
She will try to challenge you at times. Meanwhile she is secretly hoping you won't concede, and will resent you if you do.
Your frame is all there is.
Keep a strong frame.
She will try to challenge you at times. Meanwhile she is secretly hoping you won't concede, and will resent you if you do.
Your frame is all there is.
Keep a strong frame.
