I viscerally hate those weird self-care posts like & #39;forgive yourself& #39; and & #39;You deserve love!& #39; because every time I just think of my abuser seeing that shit and being like & #39;uwu I forgive myself! I& #39;m not a bad person!& #39; My hard take is everyone CAN deserve love but not everyone does

I feel like there& #39;s this weird culture online of excusing everything you ever did because somehow it& #39;s self-care to do so and like, no? It& #39;s good to forgive yourself but baby you have to do the work

(btw this thread is not about mental illness, it& #39;s about being a shit)

It& #39;s good to acknowledge that sometimes you weren& #39;t doing your best. You don& #39;t have to always look back on the past like & #39;I was trying my hardest uwu I could only do so much.& #39; It& #39;s OK to be like wow I was Horrendous but I& #39;m doing everything I can now to change and grow

And I KNOW it& #39;s not that deep but I just think the audacity of a random internet stranger to try and absolve someone of their sins without knowing Anything about them or what they& #39;ve done is just really egocentric and weird??? Like what makes you think you have the right?

help, I& #39;m being overly cynical online!