I think one of the healthiest things we did for my nephew as a toddler was to give him a safe space to throw tantrums (he’d have to go to another room) and then once he’s done he would come back and tell us why he was upset. He’s so good at articulating his feelings now

My mans would come back “makazi ndiqumbile ngoba ndifuna uSpiderman”

Then I have to explain to him that spider man isn’t playing at the moment but it will play later and we’d watch together. Then he’d give me a hug

Now that he’s older, he’ll tell you upfront that you are going to upset him and he doesn’t like a certain thing etc. so calm and level.