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maybe bi women won& #39;t date you because you& #39;re on twitter saying they& #39;re inherently harmful towards queer people because they dare to be attracted to men
bi women don& #39;t owe you attention. obviously bi women can hurt the people they& #39;re dating, but that& #39;s true of anyone. the suggestion that we& #39;re more likely to hurt our partners comes from a misconception levelled at bi people all the time - that really we only want to date men
but "men" =/= "patriarchy". by conflating them, people end up blaming patriarchal oppression on anyone they see to be associated with men. "bi women who prioritise men" (a phrase i hate) are not allies of the patriarchy simply because they date men.
can& #39;t believe i& #39;m wading into bi discourse, but i feel really hurt by the suggestion that because i& #39;m attracted to men i& #39;m therefore going to treat anyone i date who isn& #39;t a man poorly. if i treat anyone i date poorly it& #39;s because i& #39;m a shitty person, not because i am bi !!!
let bi women enjoy their sexuality & not be treated as predators whenever they date or have sex with people who are not men!!
we& #39;re all looking to be emancipated from the same systems of hetero-patriarchal oppression here. but "political lesbianism" isn& #39;t the way forward, nor is shaming bi women who date men then being surprised when they don& #39;t feel welcome in queer communities.
we need sexual liberation for all, not a further entrenching of strict identity labels & the harmful stereotypes associated with them
