maybe bi women won't date you because you're on twitter saying they're inherently harmful towards queer people because they dare to be attracted to men

bi women don't owe you attention. obviously bi women can hurt the people they're dating, but that's true of anyone. the suggestion that we're more likely to hurt our partners comes from a misconception levelled at bi people all the time - that really we only want to date men

but "men" =/= "patriarchy". by conflating them, people end up blaming patriarchal oppression on anyone they see to be associated with men. "bi women who prioritise men" (a phrase i hate) are not allies of the patriarchy simply because they date men.

can't believe i'm wading into bi discourse, but i feel really hurt by the suggestion that because i'm attracted to men i'm therefore going to treat anyone i date who isn't a man poorly. if i treat anyone i date poorly it's because i'm a shitty person, not because i am bi !!!

let bi women enjoy their sexuality & not be treated as predators whenever they date or have sex with people who are not men!!

we're all looking to be emancipated from the same systems of hetero-patriarchal oppression here. but "political lesbianism" isn't the way forward, nor is shaming bi women who date men then being surprised when they don't feel welcome in queer communities.

we need sexual liberation for all, not a further entrenching of strict identity labels & the harmful stereotypes associated with them