Let me give you all a little lesson on cuckolding—a topic suddenly relevant today.

Ten to twenty years ago I often acted as a bull for married straight couples. Usually it involved (if I can get graphic) engaging in sex with the wife while the husband watched and masturbated frantically from a corner of a room. Sound familiar?

More often than not, the couples engaged in a running commentary on my prowess as a bull centering on humiliation—how much bigger my equipment was than the husbands, how much more the wife enjoyed my attentions, how puny the beta husband was to my alpha dexterity.

The point of the scene was to hammer home that the husband was lesser in every way. In looks, in desirability, in cock size, in his ability to satisfy, even often in the virility of his sperm. Even when the guys were more muscular than I, or better looking, the fantasy prevailed.

Less often—though it was still pretty frequent—after I'd satisfied the wife in a way her feeble excuse of a husband never could, the couple would want me to humiliate him even more directly. Peeing on him, maybe, or forcing him to bottom for me while the wife jeered.

Cuckolding is an odd subculture to many who aren't aware, but a hell of a lot of couples engage in the kink. I found it more often in Southern and especially Midwestern locales. Most of the couples heavily involved in it identified as both religious and socially conservative.

With the rise of the so-called alt right, I wasn't at all surprised that one of the insults they'd hurl at progressives was 'cuck.' A whole hell of a lot of those right-wingers are into that kind of thing, and of course it would be foremost in their minds as an insult.

I haven't been involved in the scene for nearly a decade, but I'm here to say that if you find any allegations about men watching their wives cavort with younger bucks outlandish...know that it's probably going on in your neighborhood. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.