Thread by @abratasas, due to recent activities in armytwt, (and by request) here is a [...]

due to recent activities in armytwt, (and by request) here is a thread on what having ADHD is actually like, and why i am begging you to take it seriously.

DISCLAIMER: this is my experience, everyone is different. if you think you may have ADHD/ADD please do extensive research

i’d also like to clarify that i will probably be discussing worst of ADHD mostly, and i won’t be covering everything because it’s honestly endless and even i learn new things everyday.

i also am giving a general TW/ right now because :) mental health amirite ladies !

ADHD is mainly known for

-Impulsiveness
-Disorganization and problems prioritizing
-Poor time management skills
-Problems focusing on a task
-Trouble multitasking
-Excessive activity or restlessness
-Low frustration tolerance
-Frequent mood swings

-Frequent mood swings
-Problems following through and completing tasks
-Hot temper
-Trouble coping with stress

and honestly, this is very accurate and true, i just think people don’t realise the extremes to which these symptoms can occur, and the damage they can cause.

firstly-; ADHD comes with severe emotional baggage. the worst (in my opinion) is RSD (rejection sensitivity disorder). which often has ADHD patients misdiagnosed with BPD.

any cristicism is detrimental, and i cannot handle rejection. i get extremely upset if i feel rejected+

or disliked, to the point where it will plague my mind for hours. most of the time, it’s not even true, but with ADHD you tend to convince yourself everyone hates you.

it makes relationships and friendships very hard, and makes you feel like a very difficult person to deal with

it causes irritational emotions and outbursts of frustration and anger, and if often self fulfilling prophecy where you lose everyone around you. you set high standards you can’t meet and is generally damaging to self esteem. TW/ it can often lead to selfharm and misdiagnosis.

RSD is so so difficult to live with i don’t even know how to explain it. it’s so prominent in your personality that it’s often mistaken for a personality disorder.

not to mention, it poorly effects mental health. RSD, and ADHD in general, has given me the diagnosis of GAD +

depression. i’ve struggled with //TW self harm in the past. not to mention, i struggle immensely with skin picking, which comes from ADHD. it has been a blow to my confidence because i have wounds and scars from picking. i cannot stop and ADHD medication makes it worse.

while we’re on the topic, the medication for ADHD is horrific. it is widely known for its side effects, and i can first hand attest to that.

TW/ ritalin, my ADHD medication (and all ADHD medication that are stimulants) are known for appetite suppression and can cause anorexia.

i dealt with this. i struggled a lot with food and my appetite while taking ritalin. i often had to choose between eating and being able to function.

TW/ i gained such an unhealthy relationship with food that i was threatened to be hospitalised for an eating disorder.

i lost and gained weight repeatedly during this time and the pressure of it all ruined my mental health even further.

i couldn’t help my ADHD because the medication was so bad and i became a very unhealthy weight.

even now, i struggle with my body image and food a lot still.

TW// i am still the weight of a person with anorexia, but i’m trying.

following on is another part i wish people knew, is that ADHD can be extremely physically painful, especially without medication. there are good and bad days with ADHD. frustration is something you have to+

deal with a lot. sometimes the thoughts and the energy is just too much and can give you fits where your body just freaks out to let the energy out. i’ve had my mam have to hold me down multiple times to stop me from ripping my hair out in complete frustration. it feels like your

skin is on fire and that you just want to get out of your body and away from the racing thoughts but you can’t. it is very physically draining and uncomfortable and can give you extreme anxiety and panic attacks (this is what happened to me) i got so worked up during these

episodes that i would dissociate for days on end so my body would calm down.

moving on- impulsivity. this is literally so dangerous. lots of people lose all their money, TW/ engage in self harm and alcohol/drug abuse. with ADHD, when a thought comes to mind, you have to complete

it or else you get extremely frustrated, this often leads to rash decisions and sometimes even TW/ suicide.

you’re also often poorly received by others. with ADHD, you can come across as very overbearing and irritating to those around you. a lot of people can think you’re too

much, too in their face to deal with. social situations are very hard. it’s hard to know when to talk, and people with ADHD often cut people off without realising, as we struggle with social cues and timing. people can often just think we’re being annoying and rude when we don’t

realise what we’re doing. it’s hard to keep friendships when you can barely remember to reply to everyone, show up late to everything or even forget. being organised/ good at planning is practically impossible- it can make it very hard and you need very patient and understanding

friends on your side. i’ve lost a lot of friendships because of this, even though i genuinely try my best. it doesn’t help that i cannot ask my friends to hangout due to fear of rejection from RSD.

also, ADHD in school- is a thing from hell. going into secondary school,

that shit was hell. i could not keep up with the workload, and i got extreme anxiety from the environment.

i went from being an extremely above average student to never showing up to school and constantly being called out by teachers. my mum would walk me to school while i cried

and stood outside the school in protest because i hated how it made me feel dumb.

you get in trouble because teachers don’t get why you’re fidgeting or why you’re spaced out. they do not care why you forgot your homework or your book. these things are usually interpreted as

laziness when you cannot change this fact. it sets up a false reputation of your character and basically makes your teachers view you as messer when you genuinely cannot do anything.

it is also fabulous that fidget toys are banned so there’s nothing you can do to help urself :)

hyperactivity isn’t just being bouncy and bubbly- TW/ hyperactivity is scratching ur skin until it bleeds. it’s rocking back and forth while crying because you want it to stop. it’s slamming ur head into a wall. , it can also lead to hyperfocus- we can literally mean staring at+

a wall for five hours straight without even noticing. it is NOT fun, and is not a quirking personality trait.

we do not fidget because we’re so bubbly- it’s like having to scratch an itch. i physically cannot stay still, if i do i feel extremely angry and uncomfortable.

also focus- it’s not spacing out for a few seconds and coming back.

i sometimes /physically/ cannot read. i’ll be studying, staring at a book and it’s not even words anymore, it’s a blur. when you try to focus ur brain is screaming a million other thoughts and begging you to

stop, so studying is practically impossible. words are not words, and they do not register in my head. it gets very frustrating and can often lead to the TW/ self harming tendencies as a form of relief and being in control of something.

and tears. lots of tears and panic attacks

i’ve been to therapy , and i’ve been to psychiatrists and i still cannot cope with everything ADHD throws at me. it’s like a mental illness remix in one package.

there’s so much more to stay, and i might add more later on- but i’ll end it here for now.

i just hope you consider

this before trying to diagnose yourself or your “faves”. i just want everyone to know that ADHD is a lot more than what it is made out to be and is very hard to deal with, and needs to be taken more seriously by the general public and the media.

and to all my ADHD folks,

you got this. we can cope with it, and we can learn to live the best way we can regardless.

ADHD isn’t the end of the world, and it isn’t all tears and pain, but it is hard, and it’s serious. i just want people to know that. so please- be more considerate in future when

talking about it. it isn’t fun, and it isn’t quirky- and i wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.

please do research before self diagnosis, and even if you do think you have ADHD, just remember there is always help out there and you’re never alone. i’m here to talk if you want. luv u

something i wanted to add, you cannot tell someone has ADHD from their personality.

alot of people with ADHD are quiet and reserved, and often shy. (Considering alot of us have social anxiety, this isnt surprising).

we can also become very good at masking, and you wont even

Be able to tell if someone is freaking out on the inside. i used to be very quiet- ive become more “open” with my characteristics that come with ADHD in recent years bc i gained understanding friends. so, being hyper ≠ ADHD. especially in girls! We show it differently by nature!

i recommend @ADHD_Alien if you want to learn more! :)

I said this in a tweet below (but u cant really see it unless u click) but remember not everyone has the same experience with medication, and please try it out bc it could help you alot and u mightnt have any side effects :) im just unlucky lol

i thought i made it clear that this is just my personal experience, but yes, not everyone has my experience with medication, and yes, please do try it first before judging, it could really help you out. i am just trying to demonstrate the struggles that people with adhd can

Potentially deal with, but it is not guaranteed. again- please do your own research and make your own choices! :)

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