anytime it’s mentioned how harmful m/m or bl is its always women that come to defend it saying it’s helping queer men and how not problematic is

funny huh... women thinking they know what’s best for queer men

and how matriarchal the tone is usually. with women acting like queer men NEED women to write their stories lol or like queer men weren’t trying to get rights before women started writing m/m fanfics for their ships

promise queer men could do it better IF THEY WERE GIVEN THE SAME CHANCES LOL

but they aren’t, and all their stories are stolen by women where said women make MASSIVE bank. Movies, tv shows, series, while actual queer men get nothing

jk most of the consumers of m/m or bl only want the fetish and don’t want the reality of queer men in relationships where it’s uh two men going at it with all the flaws of having two MEN together comes into play

y’all think a relationship with one man brings in toxic masculinity or patriarchal issues? Imagine two dating each other while trying to grapple with masculinity issues and toxic masculinity

it’s more nuanced than women think

(And I’ve said women cause like the overwhelming audience for m/m and bl is... women. Queer men are there but they are a tiny fraction. Better to ask yourselves why ARENT the men more popular if the audience wanted the actual experience of being a queer man? )