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i have so many thoughts but for the sake of not fighting with my bi mutuals who i adore btw, there's a few things y'all need to get clear before you get mad at wlw and lesbians for setting up boundaries about how y'all speak to us.
first of all learn what comphet is, it'll save us so much time.
secondly no one was asking you to stop talking about women. people were asking you to look at the way you're talking about women and make sure that it's not fetishizing them. it's really very simple.
wlw, lesbians especially don't appreciate relationships with women always being compared to or undermined bc of male relationships. weve built a space for ourselves that excludes men in every sense.
so when bi women say something along the lines of "we love every woman in the entire world and (1) man" it's just such a nonsensical thing to us bc it's like you don't. you don't love every woman in the world, there are unlovable women out there.
(e.g. racist women) just say you like women, why is that so hard? there's no need to compare us to the one man you're attracted to, bc we know it's not about appreciating women, but putting that one man on a pedestal
other phrases to watch out for are "women are amazing but too scary to talk to" were not scared of y'all being secretly straight or bi "for attention" it's the way yall frame gay women as scary or intimidating when that's a violent struggle lesbians have to deal with on the daily
feel free to add any phrases y'all need breaking down. i'd rather explain things than fight, but y'all need to meet us half way & understand where we're coming from, not just jump on the whole "we're being attacked" train. come to me with lesbphobia and it's an automatic block.
LESBIANS ARE NOT A FUCKING FANTASY. WERE NOT SOME UNATTAINABLE OTHER WORDLY BEING THAT NEEDS THE IMPOSSIBLE TO BE "OBTAINED". we need love, respect and understanding like anybody else??? what's so hard to grasp about that? if y'all are so scared to talk to women SAY THAT.
y'all are PERSISTENT in trying to miss the point and i don't really care. this post was for MY bi mutuals to understand where we're coming from y'all can argue with yourselves cbchdjsks
