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I spent part of my Saturday reading and listening to @Glomazontyomi via Tweets and a Live Feed. Of course I chimed in from here and there, but I had two big take aways from the weekend.
First, as a Black American I rarely hear sex and relationships talk from my own.
I spent part of my Saturday reading and listening to @Glomazontyomi via Tweets and a Live Feed. Of course I chimed in from here and there, but I had two big take aways from the weekend.
First, as a Black American I rarely hear sex and relationships talk from my own.
This is the kind of talk I neededbat 11 y.o.
This is the kind of talk I needed at 18- 21 y.o.
Talk about Ethical Non-monogamy, about saying what you need in the bedroom, talk about pleasure being a two way streetband talk about challenging our sex selves tondo better.
This is the kind of talk I needed at 18- 21 y.o.
Talk about Ethical Non-monogamy, about saying what you need in the bedroom, talk about pleasure being a two way streetband talk about challenging our sex selves tondo better.
But the other part of the equation I took away is appreciating the people who "get you"-- in and out of thr bedroom. Tyomi's "Tribe" is totally different than my Tribe. Her Tribe strives to make one another better lovers. My tribe do what we do and could use learn more as well.
My other take away how there some people who balked at Tyomi explaining where she's at, her levels, what she desires, and how long she wants it done. I can't speak for those who challenged her, but I gathered it was the first time they've engaged a Queen who knew what she wanted.
That confidence is frowned in many circles-- especially in our community where there is a scarcity and desert for the kind of frank sex talk needed that put things in perspective.
When Tyomi spoke about where she came from and what she unlearned along her journey it resonated.
When Tyomi spoke about where she came from and what she unlearned along her journey it resonated.
My purpose for taking this thread to talking about Tyomi is that I know I follow and talk on this Twitter sphere regarding sex, ENM, and relationships, but to sit down on a weekend to hear a Live Feed is something I need to do more often. I'm glad Tyomi was the first.
When I mentioned earlier about having people we spend time in and out of the bedroom with who get you it came from a realization about social media personalities and real life. I may never be on the same level or drive as Tyomi...and that's okay. I appreciate her and her word.
But thinking my dick or words are going to sway her and others to fawn over me is silly and not even in the realm of reality.
I think if we are honest about the wave of people who say and post stuff online that they never ask for I surmise part of it is a lack of not knowing...
I think if we are honest about the wave of people who say and post stuff online that they never ask for I surmise part of it is a lack of not knowing...
...what they want and verbally expressing their need. Trying to get with someone who is lightyears ahead of their ideas about sexuality will never work. The time and effort to make a dick pic could be usedbto learn techniques and principles to help your/ourselves with others.
That's another subject, but I want to leave you with something I said this early morning to my Irish lass. After pondering all I heard and reflected over the weekend, I whispered to her, laying next to her, "Thank you for getting me."
She perked up a bit to ask why and I told her how not many other people would connect or accept me despite my growth and shortcomings. She did (at a crucial time in my life) and I just wanted to let her know it means a lot.
I encourage others, regardless of your background, to take timebto count the words of our sex and relationships talkers advice and points of view with a willingness to grow and a desire to strive to be better for our partner(s) who "get us".
The effort is well worth it.
The effort is well worth it.
