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It has taken me almost 2 years but I finally have enough courage to not only out my abuser, but those who have facilitated and continue to facilitate the abuse I faced including y'alls favor @TheGrapevineTV.
It has taken me almost 2 years but I finally have enough courage to not only out my abuser, but those who have facilitated and continue to facilitate the abuse I faced including y'alls favor @TheGrapevineTV.
In 2016 thru 2017 I dated Black$ or Man Like Blacks (or as I know him Willy) who is currently being featured on @TheGrapevineTV. We even did a podcast together Gari and Peanut. If you listen to early episodes you'll hear me.
As with many abusive relationships my closest friends and family watched both my physical and mental health deteriorate due to said abuse some of them even witnessing his verbal abuse and manipulation.
The first instance of other abuse happened within a couple months of our relationship in front of my best friend because EYE was using MY car and didn't bring it back to him on time.
The first of physical abuse was on his birthday 12/2/16 after his mom chided him for verbally abusing me INFRONT of her. We returned to the car he became physical once on the highway amongst other things this resulted in ripping out my ear ring piercings (still scarred).
By this time I was already fully isolated from friends and family and also embarrassed. My abuser was my only friend. He also utilized his abuse survival to guilt, gaslight and manipulate me into staying and blaming me for the abuse (typical abuser shit).
Over the last part if our relationship Black$ had 5 different incidents resulting in major physical damage to my body including a miscarriage, chronic migraines brought on by a headbutt, deep bruising of my chest n clavicle & the above. I still need treatments for migraines btw
When we broke it off he had the girl who he was cheating with, Joy Sears, who went by Joiful Noise on here but has since gone private stalk and harass me over multiple apps including LinkedIn (wtf) for months. He then threatened me with death when I called them out publically.
I was always an avid follower of @TheGrapevineTV imagine my horror when I saw him on an episode discussing colorism. I had a panic attack and was triggered. I reached out to them right away reporting my abuser. They asked for proof of which I was promised would stay private.
In less than 24 hrs he reached out and told me he knew. Black$ threatened to kill me again reminding me that he could hide my body anywhere in PA. I stopped all pursuit of conversing and unfollowed as this man is truly terrifying.
I write this thread not because I have anything to gain, but to hold organizations like @TheGrapevineTV and women like Joy accountable for perpetuating and supporting abusers while claiming to do otherwise. Do you really support victims or only famous ones?
I'm fine now btw. Went to therapy, rebuilt my relationships and myself. Just know if anything happens to me it was him and you can likely find my body in PA.
To everyone going through this you can get out. No matter how many times you've forgiven or gone back it is not your fault. Don't let shame keep you in. Reach out to your friends and those you trust, they want to help.
