Need additional information. Backgrounds, family heritage, Networths etc. https://twitter.com/MilkyLazarus/status/1297173728808308736

I'm going to my home gym in a sec, so won't be here to do back and forth.

This conversation is stale now. Our community has gone through hell for centuries, and trauma passes down our bloodlines. On top of this, we are socialised to hate ourselves and are subject to (...)

racial pay gaps making raising a family both a financial and political decision. Raising Black children in a world that brutalises and kills Black people is a heavy decision and statistically Black Women are more likely to die due to child birth.

Our community date to marry, we are traditional due to our wedded relationship to Christianity. Black Men can definitely do better and we should be doing the work independently. But the question in essence does not take into consideration White Men are not subjected to the same

biases and traumas. They can get into a relationship with Black people and live outside of the culture. Black Men cannot. A lot of us are on the breadline and cannot support partners and families financially. White Men (en masse), do not experience this.

This again is due to patriarchal interpretations of the bible as Black Men feel the need to go it alone and pay for everything. But we need to decolonise from this thinking and work in tandem with Black Women, whilst doing the emotional labour to create healthy relationships.

I think the origins of the original post are inherently lazy tbh. The answer is always present, systemically we feel like we cannot provide whereas White Men (en masse) can, and therefore can commit earlier. Does that make it right? No. Do Black Women deserve love? Yes...

I have an issue with the oversimplification tbh. It also works in reverse too btw (Why Black Men may have more success in dating a White Women).