While I'm a big believer in coaches being able to change and redeem themselves for past wrongdoings, we can't rush past reckoning with their abusive practices to get to the redemption phase of the story. We're simply not at that point yet.

Also: not everyone can or should be redeemed. Some acts are too awful to allow for it.

But for those who can really make amends, this can't happen unless they/we truly reckon with the wrongdoings in all of their specificity. And it can't be done on the timetable of those who did the abuse.

One final point: Whether or not someone can be redeemed is not up to us, the people who weren't harmed by this person. We have nothing to forgive because we weren't the victims.