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hey !!! as your resident shegay i wanted to make a thread explaining she/her gays and hopefully answering any questions u might have :)
the flag above was created by wuvsbian on tumblr - unfortunately not a she/her gay, however most of the community has reclaimed it and r comfortable using it . if you have any alternatives though, feel free to drop them so ppl can use one they're more comfy with if they choose !
i also want to thank my great friend @autisticklaus for his carrd on the subject ! she no longer identifies as gay atm, and i have a lot to say abt this myself, so i decided to take matters into my own hands 
— what is a she/her gay ?
simple: a she/her gay is a masc- or non-aligned gay person ( as in mlm !! ) who uses she/her pronouns . they may use other pronouns along with she/her, or she/her exclusively .
simple: a she/her gay is a masc- or non-aligned gay person ( as in mlm !! ) who uses she/her pronouns . they may use other pronouns along with she/her, or she/her exclusively .
— why tho ?
trauma mention /
they may use she/her because they are gender nonconforming or nonbinary, due to trauma, or just bcs they feel comfortable with using them for whatever reason !
trauma mention /
they may use she/her because they are gender nonconforming or nonbinary, due to trauma, or just bcs they feel comfortable with using them for whatever reason !
— but don't pronouns = gender ?
often, but not always . pronouns are gendered, obviously, but they are a form of gender EXPRESSION, just like clothing, names, etc . pronouns are often more important than other forms, but they're still just a way to express your gender identity
often, but not always . pronouns are gendered, obviously, but they are a form of gender EXPRESSION, just like clothing, names, etc . pronouns are often more important than other forms, but they're still just a way to express your gender identity
— oh so like he/him lesbians ?
there are some differences ( namely that lesbophobia & misogyny often play a factor in how gnc/nby lesbians identify ! ) but yes, it's the same concept ! if you support/understand one, you should support/understand the other
there are some differences ( namely that lesbophobia & misogyny often play a factor in how gnc/nby lesbians identify ! ) but yes, it's the same concept ! if you support/understand one, you should support/understand the other
— oh so like drag queens ?
many drag queens are she/her gays, yes . gays using she/her pronouns is nothing new, and likely did stem from the drag community; many drag queens use she/her in and out of drag . however it's important to note that she/her gays are not +
many drag queens are she/her gays, yes . gays using she/her pronouns is nothing new, and likely did stem from the drag community; many drag queens use she/her in and out of drag . however it's important to note that she/her gays are not +
just playing a character . most drag queens who use she/her pronouns out of drag are doing so not because of their character but bcs they are gnc or even nby and are comfortable with them .
but either way if you can call a drag queen out of drag she, you can call all of us she !
but either way if you can call a drag queen out of drag she, you can call all of us she !
— if you're nby why don't you use they/them ?
nby people do NOT have to use they/them pronouns . enforcing this idea is forcing us into a trinary or a "third gender" .
nby people do NOT have to use they/them pronouns . enforcing this idea is forcing us into a trinary or a "third gender" .
— if you're nby how can you be gay ?
nby is not a lack of gender or a third gender . it's a spectrum, so nby people can & do align w/ a gender/genders and/or identify with any sexuality . even unaligned nbys can find their only connection to gender is through their sexuality .
nby is not a lack of gender or a third gender . it's a spectrum, so nby people can & do align w/ a gender/genders and/or identify with any sexuality . even unaligned nbys can find their only connection to gender is through their sexuality .
— but u make the lgbt community look like a joke waaa
lgbtphobes will hate the lgbt community no matter what . focus on that .
it's not lgbt peoples' responsibility to water down and alter our identities to make our oppressors comfortable .
lgbtphobes will hate the lgbt community no matter what . focus on that .
it's not lgbt peoples' responsibility to water down and alter our identities to make our oppressors comfortable .
— wow i understand now shegays are very awesome and cool !
glad i could help !
btw: i like the term, but not all of us are ok with being called shegays by non she/her gays, so be sure to ask !
glad i could help !
btw: i like the term, but not all of us are ok with being called shegays by non she/her gays, so be sure to ask !
— wow i don't understand pls help
you don't have to fully understand something to respect it, that's all i ask you to do . and you can always shoot me a dm if you want to discuss it further w/ me !
you don't have to fully understand something to respect it, that's all i ask you to do . and you can always shoot me a dm if you want to discuss it further w/ me !
if you have any more questions, again, you can always dm me or send me a cc . i will say i don't check my ccs on this acc super often but i do have an alt acc @enbykurt where i usually respond v quickly . i will respond to dms on either acc asap !!
ok that's all she/her gays and he/him lesbians r perfect and so are all xenogender and neopronoun users i am giving u all a big hug <333333 cis ppl shut up boo 
