Okay, sorry in advance but I need to get this out of my system - So, my mum really is a good person but now as an adult there are some things that just make me feel bad. She doesn’t have any kind of filter, when she’s in a bad mood everyone will get it in the neck. (1/)

I’m a tidy person & usually leave the kitchen in an immaculate state but when there’re a few crumbs on the floor or something small like that, she completely works herself up into that. So often try to make everything right in advance but she’ll criticise something anyway. (2/)

She then makes a point of cleaning it up herself, literally while I’m standing there, offering to do it. When I offer to help with the laundry or something while she’s doing it, she won’t let me & do it herself only to demonstratively be stressed. (3/)

The only way to avoid this is to guess what she wants done before she does it herself. But I’m not a mindreader and it’s just exhausting. And then when I do everything to make her happy, I feel bad bc I’m not standing up for myself & (4/)

instead adjusting my behaviour to appease her. I feel really bad complaining about it, too, bc it’s such small things but it really makes me feel bad sometimes.

Anyway, sorry guys. I’ll probably delete this thread later. (5/5)