I kinda hate where this Cool Girl discourse has gone because it makes it sound like if you’re not demanding to be flown to Dubai for a first date you’re underselling yourself. It’s not realistic https://twitter.com/mpumz_n/status/1294537182976376832

The way I see it being a Cool Girl means compromising yourself & your needs to sell yourself as a relaxed partner to a man. If you *like* coffee or ice cream dates then going on one is not Cool Girl behaviour

The Cool Girl discourse has shown me that people fundamentally misunderstood what that monologue was about. Amy Dunne was describing women who shrink themselves & cast aside their own personal needs, comforts, preferences to become someone men could like

The Cool Girl doesn’t just drink beer with the boys. She drinks his favourite beer, watches his sports, listens to his music, not because she personally enjoys any of those things (she doesn’t) but because she’s trying to make him like her

The Cool Girl is a woman putting herself in an untenable position where her emotional needs can never be met because she never asks anything of the man she’s with.

It’s not a woman going on an ice cream date FFS