Talking to my various family members about their grievances with other fam makes me realise how dysfunctional they (and probably me) really are. Nobody& #39;s honest with each other about their pain, they just spend their lives alternating between arrows and shields. It& #39;s exhausting.

*probably I, can& #39;t be arsed to repost for the sake of my own pedantry

My dad, who is.about as emotionally unintelligent as they come, has just figured out that it *might* be a good idea to apologise to his grown up kids for being a brutal alcoholic if he wants anyone to give a shit when he dies. I got my first ever genuine apology yesterday.

I actually had to *tell* him apologising and meaning it would help. He legit was like & #39;Do you think that will help?& #39; Gee dad, dunno, years of difficult-to-process trauma... Shot in the dark here, but it might help make your kids actually want to call you once in a blue moon