Hey friend. Do you feel like everyone else has the same script but no one handed it to you? Do you feel like you walk around confused about interactions that everyone else seems to understand?

You might be autistic, and there's nothing wrong with you. You're just wired different

It can be a really life-changing thing to be able to understand your differences and forgive yourself for them.

Maybe you're kind of weird. You're probably pretty interesting. There are other people out there who think like you do and can relate and be real and nerd out with you

If you're interacting with people who aren't wired like you, it can be confusing because you want everything to be direct and logical and they expect you to understand cues they're giving off while not saying things out loud.

That can be hard for everyone. But no one is wrong.

If you're wired different, learning to navigate and interact with human systems that are complex and illlogical is a skill. It can be a hard one. Sometimes you can be logically correct and that's not going to be the most important thing because that's not how human relations work

Even if you're correct, you can still be wrong in someone else's eyes. Convincing them of the logical correctness of your position won't always work, because they're not basing that position on logic.

Isn't that weird? Humans are strange.

But sometimes that's how it is.

Having to run an extra background debugging process that's constantly running all the time is exhausting. I get it! But it's important to be good for the people around you, and learning how to navigate unknown languages and compile on complex, illogical architectures can help.

If this thread is resonating with you, figuring out if you're on the spectrum might be worth looking into for you. It can help you understand yourself better, and it can help you figure out how to interact with others in ways that can go better for everyone.

If this doesn't sound like you but reminds you of interactions with someone you know, maybe it can help you understand a little better where they're coming from. They're probably trying. Figuring out how to play a game that others know the rules to but don't explain can be hard.

If someone is struggling to pick up the cues you're giving off, try telling them what you're trying to convey directly. It might be a relief for everyone.

Try to understand where others are coming from, even (especially!) if they're different and it's confusing.

Be kind.