Some things to keep in mind when people share their tough moments (death of a loved one, a fiasco, accident, etc).

Don’t compare their pain with your own
Don’t rush to the end of the pain or grief process
Don’t substitute
Don’t theologize
Don’t be fatalistic

Be kind.

Two or more people go face similar life challenges but it doesn't mean they'll have EXACT EXPERIENCES (emotions, thoughts, reactions, adaptation, & overall change).

When people share their moments of pain or sadness, it's not an invitation to start your pain-comparison olympics.

Keep things simple and also check yourself because your words might be signalling monstrosity, unkindness not genuine empathy.

STOP CENTERING YOURSELF in people's personal life experiences especially when it has to do with pain, grief, loss, accident, or a fiasco.

Knowing it will take time for their pain and grief to soften, please be mindful of your "words."

People are allowed to feel the way they do because it is their experience and no one else’s.

You cannot possibly understand how the other person feels because you are NOT them.