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I’ve kept quiet for a long time but this is something that I feel like everyone should be aware of. @IavenderbIiss has hurt so many people in the past and I want to protect the people I care about.
I’ve kept quiet for a long time but this is something that I feel like everyone should be aware of. @IavenderbIiss has hurt so many people in the past and I want to protect the people I care about.
a lot of people are still friends with her so I felt like it was important to show them the truth so they can make a decision on whether or not they continue to associate with her.
I’m sure there are other people out there who have been negatively affected by her and her actions
I’m sure there are other people out there who have been negatively affected by her and her actions
if you are comfortable coming forward I encourage it. If you are not, please know you are not alone and im here to talk with anyone that may need it.
I first wanna start off by saying that i was in a relationship with sage for a chunk of time off and on. While there are many things that happened over the course of my relationship with her, i will only be covering the things that i have evidence for.
I do not wish to put any possible false information out there due to a chunk of time inbetween the events that occured and now and that is why i will be doing this.
Sage and I dated two different times. towards the beginning of our second time dating, certain things seemed to have changed since we had last been together. However, it was when she would say certain things that i began to feel things were going back to how they used to be.
it wasnt an entirely uncommon thing to have her say things like this. she didnt get along well with many of my friends and thats okay. However, there were times when she’d make me feel bad for still being around them.
at this point, i realized things were going to end up the exact same way they did the first time and i did not want to let myself get in that deep. I began to be very upfront about how it made me feel having her continuously talk badly on the people that i love most.
all of my friends were willing to talk things out and were okay with the idea of trying to be on okay terms again however sage would refuse to do so. When i told her i wasnt okay with dealing with these kinds of things again she began to instantly assume i was leaving her +
+ instead of wanting to fix the situation. after having a fight not even 1 day into rekindling our relationship, i decided it was best we be friends. she wouldnt hear me out. she didn’t understand that i didnt feel comfortable with the path our relationship was beginning to +
+ take no matter how many times i would try and explain it. in the screenshot she sent you can see she is actively complaining about being around my friends and not being willing to try and fix things. At this point, i did become more dry as a result of becoming upset.
at this point, i was upset because it felt like she wasnt hearing me. i was communicating, just a bit on the dry side. she began to try and pin what was happening on me not communicating at one point in our conversation when i was making conversation most of the night.
at this point, i began to stop replying. i was upset and this got us no where. i no longer had the energy to deal with this. over the next few days she would continusly message me from different accs and through imessage. I still was not ready to talk. At this point +
+ she had blocked all my accs but still wanted me to reply to her on imessage. However, i deemed it unnecessary to reply to someone that took it upon themselves to block me out of their life. i normally wouldnt put this in but i feel it is necessary because in these messages +
+ she would say things that made me feel guilty for not responding. I dont throw the word manipulate around lightly, but she did begin to manipulate me into this guilt and feeling of needing to respond.
aside from all of this, this is a conversation i had with sage BEFORE we made up and started dating the second time around. In these messages all im trying to do is be mutual because at the time we did have a few mutual friends. however, she quickly begins to invalidate me.
I took blame for my part in why we were on bad terms, yet she refused to take any herself. the “one” joke she made was a joke that she had recycled many times in a gc both she and i were in. I eventually became hurt by this joke and called her out for making it. i do not have +
+ any ss of the joke and im sorry but i can say it was a joke about me breaking up with her. However, after refusing to take blame she quickly became rude and began to invalidate my feelings about being hurt by the joke. This is something she would do often in many situations.
