every queer person i have met who talks shit about “tender queers” almost always have issues expressing their care and vulnerability... bc flattening toxic behavior into “tenderness” (???) just says A Lot to me lol

trauma dumping and having poor emotional boundaries has nothing 2 do w tenderness, nd i personally dont understand the grouping ! I think its a silly term that a lot of bitter people use to shit on others

like yes tender and soft is an overused word but who gives a shit, you dont want your friends to be kind, safe and communicative??

combining hatred 4 people who Like Talking about their feelings or enjoy specific shows/activities/whatever with people who have no concept of boundaries is just so strange 2 me personally... the word 2 use is unhealed or disrespectful or white queer... not tender