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how to refer and talk to people who’s pronouns are she/they and he/they ; thread time
disclaimer: this is based off of my experience and some other people i’ve talked to. feel free to correct me, and feel free to leave your own experience and info below, or dm me!!
generally
first off, always make sure you check someone’s bio / carrd for their pronouns before using gendered language! this helps avoid any misgendering :)
first off, always make sure you check someone’s bio / carrd for their pronouns before using gendered language! this helps avoid any misgendering :)
if you see someone’s pronouns are she/they or he/they, you might be a bit confused, that’s okay!!
some people with these pronouns do have a preference, some don’t. once you get closer to someone, you can always ask if they have a preference.
some people with these pronouns do have a preference, some don’t. once you get closer to someone, you can always ask if they have a preference.
it’s always safe to use they/them while referring to people who use these pronouns. also, some people with these pronouns rarely hear themselves being referred to as they/them, so it can be nice to hear !!
if it’s someone you know in real life, they might not be out to everyone just yet, so make sure you ask when it’s okay to use their pronouns (or the people it’s okay to use them around)
using gendered language
a lot of the times on twitter, people use language such as “queen, king, ma’am, sir” etc. it might get confusing when someone’s pronouns are she/they or he/they.
a lot of the times on twitter, people use language such as “queen, king, ma’am, sir” etc. it might get confusing when someone’s pronouns are she/they or he/they.
if someone’s preference is they/them, it might be a smart idea to not use many gendered terms.
some people are okay with these terms though. just be sure that if someone asks you to stop, you do. make a note, but don’t make a huge deal out of it.
some people are okay with these terms though. just be sure that if someone asks you to stop, you do. make a note, but don’t make a huge deal out of it.
personally, i don’t put too much thought to someone messing up unless it’s something that keeps happening over and over (or it seems like they’re doing it on purpose)
calling someone a boy or girl
there’s a multitude of reasons someone might go by she/they or he/they. they might feel connected to being a girl or boy, but it might fluctuate!!
there’s a multitude of reasons someone might go by she/they or he/they. they might feel connected to being a girl or boy, but it might fluctuate!!
most people i talked to are okay with being called a girl or boy, but again, it can feel nice to be referred to as a person, or something of the like !!
twitter “slang”
sometimes you use gendered terms without even realizing it !! “girl” has become just something you say to address someone, not really thinking about their gender
sometimes you use gendered terms without even realizing it !! “girl” has become just something you say to address someone, not really thinking about their gender
a lot of the people i’ve talked to understand that it’s just the way a lot of people talk, and that they aren’t too affected by it. but there still are people who it hurts, so be cautious!
in conclusion,, if you’re not sure about something, feel free to ask! no one wants to be misgendered, so we will most likely answer you :)
and to my she/they and he/they peeps: you’re so valid!! perhaps we could start putting in our carrds what we are and aren’t comfortable with when people refer to us? just a thought, so that it could be in an easily accessible place on our accounts
thank you for reading!! i love you all
ps if you have any questions feel free to reply or dm me <3
edit: sometimes in bios, when listing their pronouns, someone will put their preferences first !!
so a preference for she would be : she/they
and a preference for they would be : they/she or they/her
so a preference for she would be : she/they
and a preference for they would be : they/she or they/her
