It would be great if everyone in infosec could get a little better at recognizing patterns of abuse and stalking, so 30 of us didn’t have to keep shouting about it ad infinitum. It’s even an interesting nerdy topic. Start recognizing the abusers. They often tell you who they are.

Here is somewhere to start. In one hour at dinner with D*rkS*m at DerbyCon, I saw three of these. You can see them online, and in person. Remember that abusers can be very charismatic. https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-someone-is-being-abused-66535">https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-som...

Here are some signs of stalking. https://www.asecurelife.com/signs-of-a-stalker/">https://www.asecurelife.com/signs-of-...

We are tracking several people persistently stalking colleagues right now.

If you think you are a victim of stalking or abuse, or that you are unintentionally enabling it, please seek help. There are resources globally that can support you breaking free.

I forgot to mention- abuse (emotional and physical) and stalking can happen to ANYONE of any gender or age. Your hurt is valid and you should be able to feel safe.