MewGulf and the two most important women in their lives, their mothers — some thoughts

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I’ve been meaning to get something off of my chest since the Mother’s Day issues came out for KAZZ magazine, but today, which is also Thai Mother’s Day, seems to be the most fitting day for this post.

I would just like to say that MewGulf are really out here not only breaking gender stereotypes but really redefining what it means to be masculine.

YES, normalize men loving their mothers.

YES, normalize men showing love and affection to their mothers in public.

This does NOT make them mama’s boys.

This does NOT depreciate their masculinity.

People always relegate daughters to be the affectionate ones and always emphasize mother-daughter relationships. But mother-son relationships can be just as affectionate; sons can be just as close to their mothers as daughters. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I find it refreshing that MG choose to have their mothers beside them at every important moment in their lives. G even more so. I absolutely love the fact that his mom is there by his side to support him at the smallest of private practices to the biggest of award ceremonies (+)

and every other event in between. And it’s not meddlesome to him. He loves having his mom by his side.

And having their mothers with them at every important event does not make them any less masculine. Rather it makes them even sexier. And why might that be you ask?

Because it tells me that these men know how to respect women. It tells me that they see their mothers’ hard work in raising them. It tells me that they see the sacrifices she made towards herself not only as a woman but also as a person so that her children could shine bright.

Mothers not only deserve our respect as mothers but as women and human beings too. Bringing them out of the household into sharing your life moments in the outside world tells me that you see them as human beings who deserve to see the world beyond their home and their children.

Honestly when I see M and G with their mothers, I can tell that they were raised in happy households. And obviously I recognize that this may not be the case for everyone. Every person does not have to have this relationship with their mom.

But I do want to recognize as a society, boys and men are raised to think that showing affection to their moms in a public space may not be masculine. And I commend M and G for showing us that this doesn’t have to be the case.

Even as women, we tend to write off this behavior as unwelcome or undesirable and label the man as a mamma’s boy. But showing appreciation to your mom in public, walking arm in arm with her at your most important moments, having her share in your daily life (+)

doesn’t mean that you can’t function on your own. We have already seen exactly how much M and G are capable of doing on their own.

They have lived on their own, taken responsibility of their school work and work in the entertainment industry, and (+)

continue to focus on improving themselves every day. We know and they know that they no longer need their moms to be by their side at all times.

They are grown men (even if they act as babies and we feel the need to protect them at all times, me included).

But they still choose to have their moms stay by their side and that speaks volumes to how much they cherish and value their mothers, not only as their moms but again as women and human beings.

And to speak to the opposite effect, I also want to thank Mama Jongcheveevat and Khun Mae Traipipattanapong for raising their sons to be capable individuals. Again, it is so refreshing to see the trust that these two mothers have in their sons.

I’ve seen countless times how controlling moms try to be of their sons’ (or even parents of their childrens’) lives. However, the fact of the matter is that because you gave them the freedom to live their lives, trusted in how you’ve raised them, and (+)

respected the decisions they make for themselves, that is the reason why they value you so much. That is the reason they love and respect you and feel comfortable enough to include you in every part of their lives.

I want to thank you for letting them pursue their passions and dreams, even if it meant that it didn’t align with what you had envisioned for their futures. Thank you for letting them choose their path themselves.

But more importantly, thank you for staying by their side unconditionally as they go down this path that they have chosen for themselves. Thank you for making them independent but also for being their support even if they don’t need it.

Because they know that they have you to love them unconditionally, they can be fearless as they face society.

I know that the decision to let them act in a BL series couldn’t have come easy. No matter how open society is we still haven't reached the point of total acceptance.

But thank you for thinking of your sons’ hopes and dreams, letting them choose to do what gives them happiness

and never passing judgement on their decisions. I want to thank you for not confining them to society’s standards of masculinity, for raising them to be open-minded individuals but also for being open-minded yourself.

I want to thank you for always being the guiding light for their morals and beliefs. Because you trust in your foundations, you know that they will never fail you. I know it is hard to let your sons face the world because as mothers you want to protect them at all costs.

But I hope you also know that no matter how or when they falter, they will be alright because they have gained their strength and resiliency from you. I hope one day I can not only be as good of a mother but also as good of a woman and human being as you two are.

Please know that you are not only role models for your children but so many countless individuals who admire the human beings your sons are. Thank you not only for bringing them to this world but for gifting us the role models we wish for ourselves and our children to be.

Thank you to your sons for paving the way towards redefining what makes a man masculine. That respecting your mothers, showering them with love and affection doesn’t make you any less of a man. In my eyes, it makes you even more of a man.

And Mama Jongcheveevat and Khun Mae Traipipattanapong you deserve all of the credit for the men your sons have become.

Happy Mother’s Day to Mama Jongcheveevat and Khun Mae Traipipattanapong, and I hope you two know just really how much I respect you both.