tw // abuse , pedophilia , callouts

Before posting a callout, ask yourself some questions:

-is this something that can be addressed privately in a safe and responsible manner?
-is the person i am addressing a minor?
-are my own biases against this person affecting my judgment of their actions?

If your answer to these is YES then there are better ways to address problems. Especially if you're a minor, get help from adults you trust. Do not put yourself in a situation where you could get hurt.

Also:

-is this something that needs to be publicly known for others' safety?
-is this something that directly or indirectly puts people in danger?
-is the person aware of their actions? Do they continue to put people in danger even with knowledge that what they are doing is wrong?

If your answer to these is NO and you still have a problem with this person, then there are steps you can take to deescalate a situation from getting worse. Sitting down with someone and having a conversation with them can make a world of difference.

And if you aren't comfortable with someone, again, get help from trusted adults. Do not put yourself in a situation where you could get hurt.

Finally, some further things to keep in mind:
-callouts to address abuse, pedophilia, etc. are important, but please if you are a part of the group being hurt do NOT put yourself in danger. Do not call them out yourself. Get help from someone.

-not every adult is aware that what they are doing is wrong. You don't become omniscient when you turn 18. Young adults have more responsibility, but remember some of us are neurodivergent, some are mentally ill, and many are at different stages in their personal development.

-you just cannot resort to callouts to address a situation. Callouts are serious accusations. They can cause anxiety + panic attacks, they can make others paranoid, and they NEED to be dealt with using tact and care. You cannot make callouts just because you don't like someone.

Basically, the moral here is:
-be safe above all. Do not endanger yourself, especially if you're a minor
-get help if you need it
-callouts are very serious and should be used for *public safety*, not for personal vendettas
-be kind to one another, please

for what it's worth, most callouts I have seen lately have been appropriate, but there are still completely unnecessary ones that do more harm than good

this particular thread was not inspired by any I have seen lately; it's been something that's been on my mind for a while now.

Did not expect this to reach past the dr fandom but omg thank u for sharing. Muting this now but I think we all need to take things like callouts more seriously and honestly? Lets just be nicer to one another.