okay coming back to this now that i have time to discuss https://twitter.com/_GodHerself/status/1293537268926492672

there is really something to be said about the internal dynamics a submissive goes through. we aim to please, we live to please and that constant need easily turns into us neglecting ourselves for the other person

but there is also something to be said about dominant partners who dont bother to check on us after we finish all that pleasing. niggas will take and take and take, and not even bother to see if you are okay after

dominant partners should be more intentional with their submissive partners and be doing the proper after care so that we won't be left feeling so drained all the time

like the balance of power between a dominant and submissive is more than just sex. it's intent, emotion, loyalty, understanding. you see your submissive drowning in the need to please you and you do nothing????

most submissives lose themselves in relationships, not because they are not standing up for themselves or communicating their needs, but because their dominant just doesn't care. and even in those moments, or need to please pushes us to fix things not just walk away from them

i think my point is that being the dominant doesn't absolve you from the emotional responsibility of your partner, and doesn't give you the right to take advantage of their submissiveness in a way that is harmful to their overall well being
we are submussive but we still exist