OK, i've been struggling to express this for a while, but I think it's really fucked that cis women (queer or not) constantly treat trans men and transmascs like they don't really understand trauma from cis men or misogyny

[gabe]

Cis women think we don't understand that cis men are shitty when we're asking them to decenter cis masculinity and put cis in front of man if they mean "cis men" for once

like uh, we literally have higher risks of sexual and repro healthcare violence...? what

Cis women continuously treat their trauma and experiences like this sacred ground where only the trans people they can easily misgender or pass as cis women are welcome and it's starting to really grate on me

The only context ppl bring up trans men abusing cis women is a theoretical one- in reality, cis women frequently abuse trans men as well as other trans ppl. but this is continuously held up as proof trans men Don't Understand and are just as systemically oppressive and ignorant

I'm sorry, but for any cis woman who needs to hear this: your trauma is not unique to your gender. And your ideas of gendered dynamics are based in a cis and binary centered worldview

And it's profoundly horrific that you pretend trans people don't really understand

There's just something incredibly disgusting and insulting about people treating trans men as though they don't understand even as sexual and repro violence is rampant for us, as though we're just as ignorant when we ask people to shift their language to acknowledge cisness