to all parents, and future parents:

just because you have experienced trauma does not make it right for you to give your children the same trauma. Get rid of the mindset that if you overcame your trauma, your child can too.

Take good care of your children, and make sure that when they get in trouble, the first thing that they think is, “i need to tell my parents about this.” Instead of, “shit. I need to hide this from my parents.”

make sure that they receive your love and make sure that they know and feel your love. Sometimes kids don’t understand how you’re showing your love.

You also need to stop thinking that what you’re doing is for their own good. You may have their best interests at heart, yes. but that doesn’t make what you decide what’s best for them. They are the only ones who know what’s best for them. They know what they want.

Communicate properly. Make sure to listen to them and make sure that you understand what they’re saying. Don’t just write off everything that they feel.

Lastly, mental health issues are real. Don’t write them off as “inarte”. Once you fail to understand that, you are a failure as a parent (or so i think).

:)) please take good care of your kids.