During discussions and idea sharing, I find it fascinating to see people that are eager to share that they "disagree" or want to share their "buts". In this series of tweets I want to share my perspective on how I see those and propose another approach.

If you often find yourself disagreeing more than agreeing in arguments or when hearing ideas and thoughts, you need to take another look into how you are approaching the situation. A few questions and tips that might help:

1) Start by asking yourself. What do you agree on? There must be some common basis even if you don't like the idea at all. Start by acknowledging this basis and make sure that you mention this "first" before discussing the contended points.

2) Ask yourself. Do I really need to have an opinion in this topic? What happens if I didn't share or disagree? What is the value that I will bring into the discussion by sharing that I "disagree"? Am I just venting or am I being constructive.

3) Reiterating on (2): Remember, you don't need to have an opinion on everything. Sometimes just acknowledging the stuff you like and agree on is enough. If someone told you that this car is amazing in everything it does. You don't need to mention what you don't like about it.

Instead, confirm what you like about it as well. No need (in most cases) to focus on what you don't like. So, in this scenario, I would say. "Yeah, I love how they designed the headlights and how economic it is."

4) Remember, it's "normal" and "healthy" to disagree. Conflicts are natural and sometimes even healthy if managed right. Focus not he thoughts and not their carrier (people). Be ready to compromise and show flexibility.

You might be 100% correct, but do you have to convince the other party with 100% of your opinion? What is the most critical point that you want to get across? Focus only on this. Everything else is probably okay to give away.

Final thoughts: It's often a sign of maturity to find yourself disagreeing less. It's s sign of understanding that you can't win every fight and most fights are not even worth taking. Being focused and specific about what you really care about is key.