one reason i find it so difficult to talk about sex is because i still feel socially attached to the stereotype of “the overly sexual man”, largely thanks to Evangelicalism upholding that stereotype & usually drawing the direct contrast of “the non-sexual woman”

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talking about my high sex drive or general sexual experience feels shameful largely because i expect to be shoehorned into others’ negative ideas of what a presumably cis man’s high sex drive looks like or the effect it will have on him or others
i expect to be met with eyerolls or scoffing, responses that communicate “that figures” or “oh of course you want more sex” or, in worse scenarios, even the assumption that having a high sex drive makes me a threat to others (a well grounded fear but hurtful nonetheless)
i don’t feel like i have the right to talk about my sexual desire or the gratification of my sexual experience because it’s only going to reinforce a harmful stereotype rather than being met with understanding or camaraderie
and unfortunately it seems like progressives often have no space for sex positivity in presumably cishet men because sexual freedom in men is only seen as being in competition with the sexual freedom of everyone else, not as a necessary part of sexual liberation for all
i have no interest in taking up anyone else’s space, i don’t want my sexual experience and identity to be an implicit threat to others just because i speak about them, i just want to stop feeling like my sexual expression only warrants condescension and/or fear
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