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Ok #ADHD people - I& #39;m upset. My friend keeps saying things like "sometimes you just need to realize the potential consequences of failure before you get going" and "I& #39;m sure you& #39;ll bill those hours if you get desperate." /1
To me, these imply that I am too dimwitted to realize the consequences of failure early on. They imply that I am lazy or that my problem is privilege. /2
They, to me, invalidate a really frightening experience that I& #39;ve been trying to communicate to my friend for weeks. /3
And when I pull something awesome off I get "well you just needed to be desperate to be motivated." No! I& #39;ve been desperate for months. I& #39;ve been trying for months. /4
I have made a huge effort to make things work. It is coming together partly because of luck, which I freely admit, but partly because I have reorganized my whole life. I was running for county office and suspended my campaign. I find that embarrassing even though I shouldn& #39;t. /5
I& #39;ve started working for myself. I& #39;ve stopped practicing certain areas of law. I& #39;ve stopped trying to make as much money as many other lawyers. It all needed to be done. And that is why I am emerging, functional, from one of the most discouraging years of my life. /6
And none of this happened because I wasn& #39;t desperate (I was) or because I don& #39;t understand the consequences of failure (I do). Desperation and fear make it harder. This all happened because I have/am #ADHD and was in the wrong environment for my brain. It wasn& #39;t my fault. /7
I didn& #39;t mean to rant! I& #39;m more upset than I thought! The whole point of this thread was to ask #ADHD #neurodiversesquad if I am being overly sensitive? Any thoughts?! Criticism and abundant praise both welcome.
Oh, and my friend is ADHD!!!! So it seems extra-insulting.
